Modern Love

It is sad that the positivist & pragmatist folks of our modern world take the importance of human relationship, especially one between a man and a woman very seriously, yet unable to grasp the nuances and easy to arrive at what is a “good” and a “bad” relationship; and how to avoid a “toxic” and aspire for a “healthy” one.

Such education on human relationship in the name of self-help and therapy is killing the very essence — the hard journey that a man and a woman is supposed to go through. The path to unity is not a marketplace but sincere willingness for it. The path to love is not preferential but blind effort to make a stone melt if need be. There is no objective essence or meaning between a man and a woman in the first place to benchmark with. The two helpless creature happens to meet, feel for each other in that moment, and are insecure with if the past patterns will regress their future — there is nothing wrong or right. However, what the modern dictionary of love teach us is a blind recipe of trust, faith, and community, when in the backyard of their nights they watch porn that don’t align to their day values, they fancy things that they could not even tell to their lover(s). What are we trying to achieve? Good relationships for the sake of it? For the sake of Instagram? For the sake of saying and showing how prudent we are in picking the right banana in the supermarket? Or, for the sake of saying how we saved our tears and suffering by not letting the depth of our instincts ruin our career, family and life? What is “toxic”? The relationship or our mind incapable of going through the hardship?